My sister likes the term “emotionally expensive” a lot and in the past year or so I have come to borrow it. To me, emotionally expensive means those people, that after you spend time with them, you can barely breathe, they suck all the air out of the room. They are all about them. They say “how are you?” and then three seconds in it is “and I” “and me” and “we,” not meaning you. Every single time you talk to them.
I once had someone tell me I “make everything about me.” And I absolutely never ever once forgot that comment and from that moment on tried very hard never to do that again. Because those people, drive me absolutely crazy.
We all have times in out life where we do make everything about us. I was not a very fun to be around bride. Or pregnant person. But I’m giving myself a pass on that one because I had a high risk kind of miserable pregnancy. Going through a breakup? I will talk to you about it until the cows come home. But eventually, it needs to stop.
In the past couple of years I have become a much happier, much stabler person by simply saying no to drama. I used to try to know what ALL the drama was going on online. And there is a lot of it. But at this point in time I close twitter, go play some Candy Crush, (ohmyg-d level 70 I hate you) and move on. I don’t need to know. Or even care really.
I am by no means saying the people who are involved or the people who watch it unfold are bad people. I just found, for me, cutting out the drama, means I’m happier. In all aspects of my life. And that includes those horrible message boards too.