For years, no one close to me except my husband knew I had a blog. It was easier that way. I started blogging before it was “cool” or “in vogue” and because of my job, I just never told very many people. And then slowly, I started telling close friends and family.
I actually told my parents, drunk, on the Disney Cruise. I was talking about something and all of a sudden I was all blah, blah, blah, blogging, jodifur. And Doug’s eyes got very wide and you could tell he was thinking “what are you doing?” And I tried to gloss over it hoping my parents wouldn’t catch on. But they did. So I shrugged my shoulders and said “yeah, I have a blog.” And now they read it and it is totally fine. My mom has even been to Disney Social Media Moms with me twice and she is always a hit at the event.
I told my best friend in an equally ass backwards kind of fashion. She was asking me if I had left some internet comment somewhere and I said “wait, are you talking about my blog?” “And she said, “you have a blog?” I really need to learn to shut up. She use to read it but she is boycotting because I told her to stop heckling in the comments.
I’ve only been discovered once, to my knowledge. A neighbor and friend, who reads blogs, and I knew she read blogs, saw a picture of me and my link on someone else’s blog, And she sent me a hysterical email that said “you have a blog! Here are some shoes for Shoe Friday.” I’m sure people I know read it and I don’t know, but I have yet to have that OH SHIT SOMEONE FOUND IT AND I DON’T WANT THEM TO DISCOVERY.
For the most part it has been fine. I don’t use my last name online, and while people KNOW my last name, I ask that it not be printed. This is mainly for work reasons and family privacy reasons. But there are still people in my life who don’t know about this space. Who I think would be upset if they ever found out, and who would be hurt that I choose not to tell them. And almost 7 years later it would be hard to be like, yeah, I just um, forgot.
As for work, I have tried very hard for that whole section of my life not to know about this. But there are times where I feel as if I live a double life. SOCIAL MEDIA JODI. LAWYER JODI. I need a cape.
*This post was inspired by mystery thriller novel The Expats by Chris Pavone. Kate Moore happily sheds her old life to become a stay at home mom when her husband takes a job in Europe. As she attempts to reinvent herself, she ends up chasing her evasive husband’s secrets. Join From Left to Write on January 22 as we discuss The Expats. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes.*