The Old Days Of Blogging

by Jodifur on January 4, 2012

I find myself thinking a lot about where we are, and where we have been, and where we are going.  The we in this metaphorical story is my family, myself, and this blog.  I joked tonight on twitter that 2012 is the year that jodifur ran out of words and in some ways it feels like that.  There are times I feel I have nothing left to say.

I have read a lot of the social media predictions for 2012 and where will the mom bloggers go and I was left with a big shrug and a huh?  I don't vlog, I don't have a niche.  I don't plan on blogging about the Olympics or Politics, I don't even like the Olympics, or appearing on a commercial.  I'm not going to junkets.  I don't really work with brands (although I was just selected as a Nintendo Ambassador, yeah!). I'm just here, writing, and more and more it seems as if I'm throwing words out into an empty space.  If a tree falls in a forest…

I want a redesign (cough, Doug, cough).  I want to move to wordpress even though the move to typepad from blogger almost killed me and my marriage.  I'd like to find a niche.  Fashion?  Health?  Fitness?  I want to be more than a "mom blogger." What?  I don't know.  I used to write so many places.  I miss it.

I feel like every 3 months I circle back here and write posts like these.  These meta-blogging what am I still doing here posts?  Are you sick of them yet?

I miss the old days when I used to blog uphill in the snow both ways.  Before twitter and facebook. When we used to read and comment on people's posts. When there was conversation.  In 2012 I'm taking back the comment.  I will stop reading blogs through reader and on my phone and READ blogs again and comment. Because I miss the conversation and I'm sure other bloggers do too.

Let's take back the comment.  Let's get back to talking to each other.

{ 56 comments }

gorillabuns January 4, 2012 at 8:10 pm

I’m with you. I miss the conversations regarding a comment or for that matter, comments.
I’m kicking it old school with you this year.

mr lady January 4, 2012 at 8:24 pm

I feel like I run out of words halfway through every post I don’t publish anymore. And id love to help you move to wp when youre ready. Its pretty painless.

mr lady January 4, 2012 at 8:24 pm

I feel like I run out of words halfway through every post I don’t publish anymore. And id love to help you move to wp when youre ready. Its pretty painless.

Meredith January 4, 2012 at 8:49 pm

You are the only blogger who has ever engaged with me on comments, hence you are the only blog I now take the time to comment on. I find what you write interesting and often more times than not applicable to something happening in my life as well. You make me think differently about things. So, happy to take back comments with you.
Oh, and shoes. Love the shoes.

Holly January 4, 2012 at 8:53 pm

I agree, I miss the old days of blogging.
Uphill both ways in the snow, awesome.

Floyd January 4, 2012 at 8:55 pm

Okay. I’m with you. No more reading through the reader thing. I’m in! Let’s conversate!

Misguided mommy January 4, 2012 at 10:05 pm

WAIT!!! People still comment on other peoples blogs? THIS don’t believe it!

Misguided mommy January 4, 2012 at 10:10 pm

Wait maybe people stopped commenting because we were all commenting from our phone and auto correct was fucking up our words so we just gave up. You know like my previous comment….that’s not what it was supposed to say. My resolution should be to stop commenting from a wireless device.

Cath January 4, 2012 at 10:26 pm

NOBODY comments anymore. I get thousands of hits a week and like…two comments on each post. Sometimes I feel like screaming into the darkness I KNOW YOU’RE OUT THERE! COME OUT! SHOW YOURSELF! Horror-movie style.
As for the niche thing, it depresses me. I had a niche. It was blogging about books. Then I had a baby and my time for reading went way downhill, so I had to diversify. I used to post a book review every day; now I’m lucky if I get one up a week. If I have to get more nichey (Nietzsche?), I’m going to be EVEN MORE SLEEP DEPRIVED.
I come to your blog without the niche, though. Just know that. I think you’re doing fine. It’s all about marketing, though. If you can find a way to put into words what makes you different from anybody else, and to approach each post about anything from that angle, you’ve done it.

Mama Bub January 4, 2012 at 10:45 pm

I think I missed the days of commenting completely. I would like to be a part of bringing commenting back!
I would also like to be Nintendo Enthused, very much.

Colleen January 4, 2012 at 10:57 pm

I kind of like when you write these posts. I have the same thoughts and questions about why I’m blogging and where it’s going.
And then… right after you write these posts… you always seem to jump in and have a spurt of blogging.
I agree with the need to try to comment and communicate more. I’ve been trying to use the “next” button with google reader more so I’m actually on the blogs. I comment much more when I’m actually ON the site. (see… like now!) :)

M&Co. January 4, 2012 at 11:16 pm

I too miss the comments but I’m as guilty as everyone else about reading on my phone and not commenting. I also need to write more frequently.

M&Co. January 4, 2012 at 11:16 pm

I too miss the comments but I’m as guilty as everyone else about reading on my phone and not commenting. I also need to write more frequently.

M&Co. January 4, 2012 at 11:16 pm

I too miss the comments but I’m as guilty as everyone else about reading on my phone and not commenting. I also need to write more frequently.

M&Co. January 4, 2012 at 11:16 pm

I too miss the comments but I’m as guilty as everyone else about reading on my phone and not commenting. I also need to write more frequently.

Life of a Doctor's Wife January 4, 2012 at 11:32 pm

I like your introspective posts. And I hope you have more to say, because I like reading it. I have vowed to be better about commenting this year, too.

Headless Mom January 5, 2012 at 12:28 am

Agreed. Eden said earlier in the week that she was going to blog like it was 2002. I like it.

Kristie January 5, 2012 at 12:32 am

I used to blog every day. Sometimes I’d post more than one entry a day. I haven’t blogged in about a year and I miss it, but I feel like I get everything out there that I need to say on Facebook and Twitter.
I miss it. A lot. And I can’t figure out how to get back into it. =(

Kat January 5, 2012 at 8:15 am

I feel the same way! I look at my stats every once in a while and then do the numbers in my head and wonder why I only got 2 comments. Was my post really that bad? And if it was that bad, why didn’t they at least have the courtesy to troll me? I’m with you time to take back the comments.

Sarah January 5, 2012 at 8:16 am

Yes, let’s.

Corey Feldman January 5, 2012 at 9:42 am

I rarely use a news reader for that reason. It makes it less likely that I will comment and I like to comment. I always thought the best part of blogging was the dialog/community. I have also noticed a lot less comments on mine as well, some of that is Facebook. Sometimes I get people commenting there instead of the blog. Since I don’t open Facebook to everyone, it kind of cuts down on the comments. I have also noticed less readers in general. I’d blame it on my sporadic blogging, but I have never been a daily post kind of blogger. I think I can blame Facebook for that as well(otherwise I’d have to blame myself or my writing and who wants to do that. But I do thing there is a Facebook over exposure effect; people used to come to my blog to keep up with me, but there is less of a reason to do that if they follow me on Facebook, 4Square or twitter.

Jessi January 5, 2012 at 10:16 am

I’m with you. I think that’s the point of blogging – conversation.

Shannon January 5, 2012 at 10:49 am

OMG YES! I am so sick of hearing about “branding” and “networking.” I just want to blog because I like to write and interact with others. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, I like the human connection, not the brand connection.

aimee @ smilingmama January 5, 2012 at 11:31 am

I am SO with you! I miss getting comments! I still try to comment but definitely not as often as I used to…will do better!!!

Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting January 5, 2012 at 11:49 am

HELLS-TO-THE-YES! I miss the old days, too. It’s funny, the past few days, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing – clicking over to read and comment. Viva la revolution! :)

Triplezmom January 5, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Yes, yes, yes! I miss the olden days too. I like your idea and am obviously letting myself be inspired by it. Thank you.

Andrea (Lil-Kid-Things) January 5, 2012 at 12:57 pm

I am with you! I have been trying to be more intentional about commenting because I believe it is so important. Thanks for the reminder!

Amy B. January 5, 2012 at 1:21 pm

I am too addicted to my reader to give it up, but I agree it allows for too much distance between reader and writer. I don’t even know what anyone’s blogs look like.

Mo January 5, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Ugh. I hate the niche thing. I miss the days of the memoir blog. Now everyone feels like they have to blog on a topic—be an expert on a topic—in order to have a successful or relevant blog. I tend to gravitate toward the more old-school, niche-less blogs, so I hope you keep writing about your life.
I hate to admit it but I’m addicted to my reader. It makes it easier for me to get through the blogs I want to read. I will, however, click over and comment. I wish more people did. I deliberately stayed away from Twitter for a while because I hated that the conversations where happening there and not on the blogs. That’s why I never connected my blog with Facebook.
Viva Old School!

Mary@Everyday Baby Steps January 5, 2012 at 2:06 pm

Amen!!! I so miss the comments. It’s all moved to Facebook, Twitter and such. But it’s just not the same. I try every time I read a blog to make at least a small comment, and I hope that we all get back to the conversation on our blogs. Thanks for the kick in the butt!

Issa January 5, 2012 at 2:17 pm

Blogging uphill in the snow? Ha. I like that analogy. I want this to be the year that we take back personal blogging. There are enough of us who still do it, that it could just work. I’m all for getting back to commenting too.
Long live personal blogging!!!!
Truly, it’s what I love. The ones I read, still do it. I rarely read other sites. *cough* Babble *cough*

Middle State/MomZombie January 5, 2012 at 2:44 pm

Bring back the comments. Yes. I agree that smart phones and readers and other social media platforms stole the comment from the blog. Why comment on the blog when you can “like” it on FB? Not the same. I’m commenting here and just about everywhere else I land.

melissa January 5, 2012 at 2:49 pm

i almost forgot what receiving a comment feels like! yes, bring on the comments!!

Alison January 5, 2012 at 3:34 pm

I miss the days where I could blog about being hungover, or having BO and no one judge me. The days when my readers and I were real virtual friends, we’d visit one another’s blogs and it was as though we went to brunch together though states apart. When I had my daughter, old school blog readers sent gifts of burned CDs and snarky message onesies and I did the same for them.
And then as blogs became more prevalent they became more gimmicky, more santitized. And I miss the old school blogs. Your blog rocks because it isn’t niche, it isn’t cliche. It’s personal and fab.
And ditto that smartphones killed the comments. I added Disqus to my blog to create conversation and it bit me in the ass because it can’t be used on readers & phones.

Katie January 5, 2012 at 5:11 pm

I do so miss comments. I don’t blog as often anymore because it’s kind of lonely, and posting on Facebook feels more rewarding at this point, because people are more likely to respond there.
Migrating from Blogger to Wordpress is not very difficult, and if you drop a few bucks to buy a good theme, customizing is way easy. Feel free to email me if you want to talk about it, I might be able to help :) I’ve done it a few times now.

Cheney January 5, 2012 at 5:17 pm

I have a newish blog, so I suppose I don’t expect much in the way of comments, but still, I get about a hundred visitors a week and like ONE comment every month. Every MONTH. This is frustrating to me, because the reason I blog every day, is to hopefully attract like-minded readers. I don’t want blog fame, I don’t want ad money – I just want new friends. It sounds pretty pathetic, but it’s true. I envy that bloggers become friends, and I’m like “How do you do it!?” because no one reaches out to me, and when I reach, hardly anyone reaches back. But you – you always reach back. You are the kind of blogger I aspire to be BECAUSE you always reach back. It’s admirable. Don’t stop blogging. I’ll keep commenting.

Jennifer January 5, 2012 at 5:21 pm

YES! I’m completely with you. One of the best things I ever did was install the “Next” button to my bookmark bar. It allows me to navigate through my reader, without being in it. I’m actually on the blogs and it makes it so much easier to comment.
I had also gotten out of the habit of visiting the bloggers that leave me comments and sharing the love. I’m committing this year to return the favor, so to speak. The community aspect of blogging is the most important to me, and I think that is the number one way to prove it.

Maggie January 5, 2012 at 5:53 pm

One of my resolutions was to be better about commenting too…it’s just so easy to read things in google reader and not click over! Not that it makes it okay…hence the resolution ;)

San Diego Momma January 5, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Yes, yes, yes. And let’s return to storytelling and content and authenticity.
P.S. I am also the master of blogging angst. I write a post like this monthly. #Meta

Kirsty January 5, 2012 at 6:04 pm

As someone hopelessly old school at the best of times (don’t even know what a reader is, don’t have the kind of phone that makes blog reading possible), this brings joy to my heart. My own blog is (deliberately) pretty small-scale. But I have noticed increased traffic (thanks to Twitter, mainly), though I still rarely get oomments. I’m no great writer, I know that, but I enjoy blogging (when I get the time) and love it when I see that someone has commented. In addition, I also love commenting on other people’s blogs, and getting a response back. The all-new, all-Twitter fashion can certainly take the pleasure out of reading blogs. Feeling that you’re missing stuff because it’s been said on Twitter (which I use, but rarely) is frustrating.
That said, I have a list (a looooong list) of my favourite blogs bookmarked on my computer and I regularly click down the list, one by one, reading any new posts… I told you I was old-school!
All hail the new “take back commenting”!

Missy @ Wonder, Friend January 5, 2012 at 6:23 pm

I followed a tweet over here and I’m never leaving. This post put into words the thoughts I often have. In fact, I didn’t blog for two months because I just wasn’t sure where to go.
I’m not a mom blogger (but I’m a mom) and I don’t have a niche and I don’t blog about blogging. In the end, I decided I fit wherever it is I want to (or maybe I don’t fit at all, but I’m okay with that, too). I’m reworking my blog so that it makes more sense for me to write on the topics that interest me – niched or not. And I feel so strongly about just getting back to what initially drew me to this medium: blogs and bloggers. I’m going to write, read, comment and just enjoy it for what it is. At least this is what I’m telling myself.
Sorry to ramble in your comments! Thanks for saying (typing) out loud what I was thinking.

Abby January 5, 2012 at 7:04 pm

I’ve been blogging for 6 years, which seems like an eternity compared to most people. I never, ever got more than 20 comments on any post. And I’ve noticed that more and more people will “like” a post or tweet a post instead of commenting on it. That seems lazy to me, but why should I dictate how people use social media? Personally, I get a lot of emails and DMs from people instead of comments. I have no idea why some people have a fear of commenting, but they do. Also? I love Twitter (how I found you) and hate FB with a passion. There’s my 2 cents in a comment! :)

Julie @DutchBeingMe January 5, 2012 at 8:31 pm

I think that’s a great idea. I miss taking the time to comment on blogs — but I think that (at least for me) twitter opened the world and now I have so many more blogs to read than I did back then.
I’m committing with you – commenting here we go!

Jennifer January 5, 2012 at 9:31 pm

Word!

Jen January 5, 2012 at 9:44 pm

Oh my goodness! I was just talking to a friend about this. Blogging has changed and I so miss the connection with people. Yes, let’s get back to commenting and blogging. Let’s not let Twitter win and take it over. I and my blog are here to stay.

Michelle January 5, 2012 at 9:55 pm

Hear hear. And amen. I miss the conversations and community created by comments. I’m one of the people who doesn’t have a ton of blog reading time, so I devote my efforts to those who read and comment on my blog. Selfish, probably, but … it’s what works for me. And there are bloggers I haven’t read in eons who I think about periodically – never when I’m near a computer, of course – and wonder what they’re up to and would go read, but … I never remember when I’m near my computer.

Mama Kat January 5, 2012 at 10:44 pm

You know what’s funny? I saw this on Facebook after Jennifer from Momma Made it Look Easy posted it…I read it, nodded in agreement, shared with my Facebook friends and was JUST about to close out without leaving a comment. I totally agree with you, but at the same time I get it.
With Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter…SOOO many things vying for our attention now…we’re spreading ourselves thin and commenting is taking the brunt of it.

Maddy January 5, 2012 at 10:46 pm

Then I’ve timed my arrival badly now that I’ve just resurrected my google reader from the depths. There again, I heartily agree with your views about comments – don’t we all agree on that one.

Caroline January 5, 2012 at 11:49 pm

I’ve only been blogging for a little over a year, so I don’t know the old school of blogging, but I’m with you all the same….I love comment commitment. I’m desperate to create a community with my blog.

Elisa January 6, 2012 at 7:31 am

I had a similar reaction to the 2012 predictions – I am not even a mom blogger, I blog about fashion, travel, photography, random stuff, sometimes my kids, sometimes food. I don’t have a niche either.
Must we all have a niche? People aren’t just one thing. Unless you are shooting at being the best [fill the blank] blogger in the US, your state, the planet, the universe… why would you want to pigeon-hole yourself into doing just one thing? It would drive me crazy.
I never stopped reading blogs and commenting – sometimes I do more of it, other times less. But it’s what I love about blogging, so that never stops. To a great 2012, whatever it may bring!

Janna January 6, 2012 at 11:34 am

Wow, look at all the comments! I haven’t been commenting or reading much, I’ve just felt too out of it. Hopefully I will be more productive now that I’m in my second trimester. Also, I can’t follow any of the branding Mom blog stuff, I am just not savvy enough. So I’ll just keep doing what I want with my blog, and people can read it or not, I guess.

Barbara January 6, 2012 at 3:32 pm

Oooh, I would love to know what blogging would be like without Facebook and Twitter. I know I would have more time for writing if I wasn’t trying to build audiences using those outlets. That said, I don’t niche blog. I’ll write about whatever comes to mind….even the Olympics…but only if someone does something really awesome (or awful). ;)

Jessie January 6, 2012 at 7:39 pm

yeah google reader was the death of my interaction with blog comments…I wish it was a bit easier to comment on blogs from my phone–I try and get convoluted sign in processes and give up and never go back when I am on the computer…
my problem in not having a lot to blog about is I am so INSTANT GRATIFICAtIOn that I just have long monologues with myself on my own facebook wall (that I probably should just blog) but people click like and I know they are reading/hearing me that way…if I blog it-other then seeing hits on the web traffic I have no idea people are even reading it..I suppose I could put a facebook like button on my posts or something…
If its worth anything Jodifur..you have this little bloggie out in AZ that reads all of your posts ;-) I will also resolve to do a better job of interacting

April January 7, 2012 at 1:26 pm

Without making it a resolution, that’s what I’m trying to do as well. I still read in my reader first because there are quite a few posts from bloggers where I have no comment, but I am trying to click through more often. And my two cents on your blogging? You’re one of my faves.

Chrisor (@ynotkissme) January 10, 2012 at 12:21 pm

I wasn’t around for the old days of blogging but I’ve noticed that no one comments anymore. I think it is too easy not to. To read and just click away, on to the next thing seems to be what’s happening. I need to set aside some time every week to read and comment on blogs. I don’t like writing comments from my iphone even though I’ll read blogs from there. I do like following your life on here and Twitter though. ;-)

Susan @WhyMommy January 13, 2012 at 1:35 pm

I hear ya – and I’ve been trying to hold myself to this too – commenting at least a couple times a day – that’s no time compared to the time the blogger took to write it, right? It makes me happy to leave a little sunshine at the end of a friend’s post.
Like this. Happy Friday!

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