I read somewhere, on a blog maybe (?), that once your child becomes 5 you can no longer consider yourself a mommyblogger. Momblogger? Parentblogger? I can't keep up. Anyway, I have noticed that my posts in the "random parentness" category are becoming less and less and I'm writing about other things. Exercise, fashion, ME. I know, who would have thought? My blog, and I'm writing about me. I'm also getting less and less comments. Coincidence? I have no idea.
None of this is conscious. When I have stories about Michael, or things to say, I blog about them. But lately I find I have less to say in general. The whole tenor of the blogosphere is changing, and I find myself staring at a blank computer screen a lot thinking BUT I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY.
I started blogging for fun, and because I like to write. I had no idea where it would take me. And the places it has taken me have been lovely, and fun, and sparkly. I have made some of my closest friends. I have had opportunities I never would have had. (Rumor is I may have an essay in a book. But it is all rumor right now. I'll know more later. SHH.)
Maybe I'm not a mom blogger anymore. I'm not sure it even matters. I just know right now I still want to be a blogger. But I have idea what I'm blogging about. Stick with me please.
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The same thing happens to me. Everything used to be a blog topic, but now I have a hard time thinking of things. Also, I think, for me anyway, the older my children get the easier parenting gets (relatively!) and I don’t have as many “Can you believe how freakin’ hard this is” posts.
Also, as they get older I try to respect their boundaries more. I think more about whether they would want that information plastered all over the internet. It’s tough.
I am doing the same thing. Odd thing is, I get more comments on posts about exercise, health and weight loss than I do just about anything else. Odd thing is, I don’t like reading the straight parenting blogs anymore really. I like reading ones like yours that encompass that whole that we are as mothers/humans. I’m just bad about having time to comment. I’ll stick around though.
Well never having been a mommy (unless you count Miss Stella, and I’m not one for the ‘furbaby’ thing) I really don’t know my place in the blog world either. I don’t consider myself a writer as much as an opinionated person who likes to communicate.
Hence the “bad blogger” idea. It’s not that I’m bad so much as neglectful. Let me know when you figure it out!
ditto this. For me, sometimes I just feel like writing, and whether or not it’s an interesting topic for anyone else is kind of secondary. Maybe that’s why I don’t have many readers.
It helps me refocus and work out my feelings.
And I only comment sometimes here because most of the time my comments would be “yeah me too” which is about as interesting as, well, my blog. lol
I’ve never just blogged about my children, but I have noticed my blog posts are increasingly about other things as my kids get older. I’ve never been into the “all-kids-all-the-time” blogs.
I’m here, I’m reading, but I haven’t been commenting much on any blog, I feel like right now it’s all I can do to read, because of how crazy my life is during the spring/summer time both at work and at home.
Keep blogging…I love it and not just the mom stuff, other stuff too!
I’ll stick.
I write less—or maybe just differently—about my kids too. Partly because I want to respect their privacy (a little) and partly because I just have more going on. Kinda.
I’m sorry, I hardly ever comment, but I promise I read EVERYTHING:)
Don’t worry, I may not comment much but I’ll be sticking around to read what you have to say. Just go with whatever is feeling. The writers I like best are because of HOW they say things not just what they are saying. You’ll find your focus. Just stick with it.
I’ll stick too. My blog went empty over the fall/winter, but I’m going to try to put some life back into it.
I started blogging without even realizing Mommybloggers existed. Blogging was just a way to keep my sanity after my X left. Kids are a topic sometimes, but mostly it’s been about figuring out who I am independent of the Mom schtick.
Keep writing, we’ll be here!
Yep, hard to pin down once our kiddos become more independent so our minds can drift to other things. Now the teen years have hit though? I do find more posts coming back about them.
So change “mommy blogger” to “mom blogger”.
~Scout
Huh, interesting. I never would have thought of that! But I do write more about my boys than I do about my girl and she’s older.
And yes, I’ll stick with ya!
I wouldn’t dream of going anywhere!
I’ve never really had a salient category. That’s okay, right?
I began blogging to keep my writing skills up once I retired. LAtely I have had trouble writing because it seems like all I want to do is complain about the state the world is in. I need to go back to writing about my grandchildren, my crafting and the fun things in my life. I read you all the time, but I haven’t been commenting much.
Nope. Forget it. Never coming back.
I have always considered myself a general diarist. I obviously write about infertility a lot, but that’s because it’s in the forefront of my mind right now. 10 years from now, it might not be. But my site will always be an extension of me. Does it help to think of your blog like that?
I don’t really run out of topics for blogging. My malfunction is two fold. Time is an issue, I just don’t have enough. But lately my biggest issue, when I have the time, is I stare at the computer screen and WANT to write about the crap in my life. Unfortunately much of what I want to put out there, is just not meant for the internet at large.
Seems like a lot of comments here to me!
I found the critical age to be closer to 8. It’s not that my kids do less cute and funny things (though, honestly, they do) it’s more about them coming into their own. I have to think more carefully about what is my story and what is theirs. Or even if it IS “my story” how would it feel to them if they, their friends, or (hello, just realized I have some new fans) their teachers read my blog. Or wondering what unintended consequences might my stories have on them.
I still have a lot to blog about, but some days thinking it might be time to return to old skool journaling as well.
I’ve been in the whole “blogging less” phase. I don’t know if it’s because Zoe’s edging up to being 5 (in June ACK!!!)… or because 2 girls keep me WAY more busy than 1 did… or because Ana takes up WAY more attention than Zoe ever did (the nerve of her!)… or I’m just in a blah, nothing to write about kind of mood. I don’t know. I keep waiting to get a burst of fabulous blogging energy.
Whatever it all is… I’m still around reading as much I can. Commenting when I have 2 spare moments.