I'm remiss to come here and complain about Michael's school again because I know what you people are thinking. And I'd be thinking the same thing. Could she just move the damn child? If only it was that easy.
Michael is happy at school. I know, I know, as impossible as it seems, he is. And the behaviors seemed to be getting better, and maybe, just maybe, I could deal with the teacher's nonsense. Maybe it was in the best interest of Michael to keep him there and let him work through whatever THIS IS.
We paid for two private evaluations at the school, one with the therapist, and one with the OT. The therapist thought he was fine there, the OT saw NOTHING, not one bad behavior, and had a less than favorable impression with the school but still, was not convinced we should move him.
And then, yesterday. They started pushing me AGAIN for a shadow and he had the WORST DAY EVER (Coincidence? Lie? I don't even know anymore) and I know, I know, we have to move him. But where? How? My schedule is impossible and I am looking, I really, really am, but I'm terrified I'm going to put him somewhere and that place is honest to goodness going to kick him out opposed to what they are doing now which is nothing except torturing me, and maybe not helping the problem.
We are nowhere. We have a diagnosis of nothing but low tone, which the school doesn't believe. And behavior problems. Man, is he having behavior problems. But why? I don't know. He didn't have them last year. He doesn't have them anywhere else. Is it naive to believe that simply putting the child somewhere else will solve the problem?
This school isn't going to solve the problem. I get that. But I'm not sure moving him is either. And yes, I'm talking in circles. Which is why I think I've barely been talking at all. Sorry about that.
What happened to the lovely little boy the teachers raved about last year? How could he have just disappeared? How do I bring him back? And more importantly, how does this child go to Kindergarten next year?
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Oh, ick. I’m so sorry this is going on. I wish I knew something to say that would make it all better, but…how about a cyber hug and a good vibe-sending instead?
I’m so sorry you are going through all of this. I hope that you find a place soon. I wouldn’t worry about it too much though. He’s picking up on your worry, too, you know. I’m praying.
I feel for you, truly. We’re having the opposite problem. Our two special needs boys are mostly holding it together while in school then imploding at home, which makes those parts of the day oh so fun. I need a girls night–heck a girls week–out.
Is it possible that Michael just doesn’t mesh well with the teacher? We had issues with my son’s behavior in his preschool class and switched him to a class with a teacher that fit him better – same school, different room, more consistent teacher. Things have been much better since then. I don’t know if that’s an option, but maybe a thought?
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this with your little boy. I’m on the point of taking my son out of school, uncertain what else to do – anyway I just wanted you to know you are not alone.
Our middle son, Nate, rocked preschool. He did great. The teacher went on and on about him. Kindergarten was hell. His behavior was awful, the kids were mean, yet, he loved school. I think this is a teacher issue, but that’s just me. Best of luck with this stuff. It does wear on you after awhile. He’s not broken….he’s just Michael. There’s a teacher out there who will understand that, and being the great mom you are, you’ll find him/her.