I just finished a 13 week package with a personal trainer. It was my birthday present from my parents. My readers know that I am a tad too obsessive about weight and exercise. I've been trying to lose the same 10 pounds since the dawn of time.
She took measurements at our first session, and took measurements yesterday. And you know what, except for 2 inches off my thighs, everything is exactly the same. And I lost whole 2 whopping pounds, yippee!
The whole morning I felt like I had been spinning my wheels. Wasting time and money. I will always be this overweight girl and will never be pretty. I moped. I sulked. I was grumpy.
I came home and read this.
And then I remembered, I look thinner. My waist looks smaller, my clothes fit loser, measuring tape be damned. Maybe the measurements were wrong. Maybe they are right. But people are telling me I look great, and I feel great.
It shouldn't be about numbers, be it the number on the scale or a number on a tape. It's about happiness, being a good friend, good wife, good mother, good person.
I am healthy. I am strong. I am me, and I like me, now. Not the person I was when I obsessively counted every piece of food I put in my mouth. Maybe I was thinner then, but I wasn't happy. And happiness counts.
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Dude, your problem isn’t needing to lose weight, it’s needing to realize that you are already skinny. I’ve seen you, it’s a fact.
Dude, your problem isn’t needing to lose weight, it’s needing to realize that you are already skinny. I’ve seen you, it’s a fact.
Dude, your problem isn’t needing to lose weight, it’s needing to realize that you are already skinny. I’ve seen you, it’s a fact.
Dude, your problem isn’t needing to lose weight, it’s needing to realize that you are already skinny. I’ve seen you, it’s a fact.
Hey, I stumbled upon your blog last week. I too am a part-time attorney – with two children, ages 2 and 5 – I have enjoyed reading your blogs that discuss child care choices (and woes – of which I’ve experienced many). Your words/thoughts made me feel “normal,” whatever that is – thanks!
Hey, I stumbled upon your blog last week. I too am a part-time attorney – with two children, ages 2 and 5 – I have enjoyed reading your blogs that discuss child care choices (and woes – of which I’ve experienced many). Your words/thoughts made me feel “normal,” whatever that is – thanks!
Hey, I stumbled upon your blog last week. I too am a part-time attorney – with two children, ages 2 and 5 – I have enjoyed reading your blogs that discuss child care choices (and woes – of which I’ve experienced many). Your words/thoughts made me feel “normal,” whatever that is – thanks!
Hey, I stumbled upon your blog last week. I too am a part-time attorney – with two children, ages 2 and 5 – I have enjoyed reading your blogs that discuss child care choices (and woes – of which I’ve experienced many). Your words/thoughts made me feel “normal,” whatever that is – thanks!
“I am healthy. I am strong. I am me, and I like me, now.”
Love this.
And beth fish is right – you are thin and pretty and perfect right now – I *just* met you. You look amazing.
“I am healthy. I am strong. I am me, and I like me, now.”
Love this.
And beth fish is right – you are thin and pretty and perfect right now – I *just* met you. You look amazing.
“I am healthy. I am strong. I am me, and I like me, now.”
Love this.
And beth fish is right – you are thin and pretty and perfect right now – I *just* met you. You look amazing.
“I am healthy. I am strong. I am me, and I like me, now.”
Love this.
And beth fish is right – you are thin and pretty and perfect right now – I *just* met you. You look amazing.
I actually hadn’t met you at all until the AI open thread on MamaPop last night — but hi! I’m sure you’re wonderful. Healthy is paramount. Aim for that.
I actually hadn’t met you at all until the AI open thread on MamaPop last night — but hi! I’m sure you’re wonderful. Healthy is paramount. Aim for that.
I actually hadn’t met you at all until the AI open thread on MamaPop last night — but hi! I’m sure you’re wonderful. Healthy is paramount. Aim for that.
I actually hadn’t met you at all until the AI open thread on MamaPop last night — but hi! I’m sure you’re wonderful. Healthy is paramount. Aim for that.
I really think it’s about how you feel. It seems like you have a wonderful attitude. Inches are nothing to sneeze it. I’ve been meeting with a personal training too and initially I did loose weight (I had plenty of weight to loose) and now I’m at the point where I’m not loosing weight, but inches instead. I won’t lie and say I’m not happy about the inches, but what I’m thrilled about is the energy level.
I really think it’s about how you feel. It seems like you have a wonderful attitude. Inches are nothing to sneeze it. I’ve been meeting with a personal training too and initially I did loose weight (I had plenty of weight to loose) and now I’m at the point where I’m not loosing weight, but inches instead. I won’t lie and say I’m not happy about the inches, but what I’m thrilled about is the energy level.
I really think it’s about how you feel. It seems like you have a wonderful attitude. Inches are nothing to sneeze it. I’ve been meeting with a personal training too and initially I did loose weight (I had plenty of weight to loose) and now I’m at the point where I’m not loosing weight, but inches instead. I won’t lie and say I’m not happy about the inches, but what I’m thrilled about is the energy level.
I really think it’s about how you feel. It seems like you have a wonderful attitude. Inches are nothing to sneeze it. I’ve been meeting with a personal training too and initially I did loose weight (I had plenty of weight to loose) and now I’m at the point where I’m not loosing weight, but inches instead. I won’t lie and say I’m not happy about the inches, but what I’m thrilled about is the energy level.
You look great, you just need to believe it!!!! I know it’s hard to be happy with what you have, but once you embrace it 100% is when you will be completely happy with yourself. FWIW I think you look good and your NOT fat!
You look great, you just need to believe it!!!! I know it’s hard to be happy with what you have, but once you embrace it 100% is when you will be completely happy with yourself. FWIW I think you look good and your NOT fat!
You look great, you just need to believe it!!!! I know it’s hard to be happy with what you have, but once you embrace it 100% is when you will be completely happy with yourself. FWIW I think you look good and your NOT fat!
You look great, you just need to believe it!!!! I know it’s hard to be happy with what you have, but once you embrace it 100% is when you will be completely happy with yourself. FWIW I think you look good and your NOT fat!
It truly should be about how you feel.
About 7 years ago I did Weight Watchers and did fabulously. I lost about 30 pounds and was about 130 pounds…the lightest I ever weighed (and at the low end of my “healthy weight range”). I was eating the healthiest diet I’d ever eaten… and I was working out all the time. I thought I’d be so happy. But I think (other than being happy about the size label in my clothes) I was the least comfortable with myself. I felt like I had to be so neurotic about what I put in my mouth all the time. I couldn’t enjoy eating out with friends… or having an ice cream cone… or having a glass of wine even.
Now, I will say I’m not thrilled with my weight (well… my weight before being pregnant. I’m OK with my pregnant weight). I do plan to work on my weight and exercise after this baby comes. That said… I’d be thrilled to be in the range of 150 pounds… but I found that when I tried to do Weight Watchers again just last year… they wouldn’t even let me put that as my “goal” because it was above the “range” I was suppose to be in. It was so irritating.
Now that I’ve just babbled away… I mainly just wanted to say that I just firmly believe that it shouldn’t be about the numbers. It should be about being healthy and comfortable with your body.
It truly should be about how you feel.
About 7 years ago I did Weight Watchers and did fabulously. I lost about 30 pounds and was about 130 pounds…the lightest I ever weighed (and at the low end of my “healthy weight range”). I was eating the healthiest diet I’d ever eaten… and I was working out all the time. I thought I’d be so happy. But I think (other than being happy about the size label in my clothes) I was the least comfortable with myself. I felt like I had to be so neurotic about what I put in my mouth all the time. I couldn’t enjoy eating out with friends… or having an ice cream cone… or having a glass of wine even.
Now, I will say I’m not thrilled with my weight (well… my weight before being pregnant. I’m OK with my pregnant weight). I do plan to work on my weight and exercise after this baby comes. That said… I’d be thrilled to be in the range of 150 pounds… but I found that when I tried to do Weight Watchers again just last year… they wouldn’t even let me put that as my “goal” because it was above the “range” I was suppose to be in. It was so irritating.
Now that I’ve just babbled away… I mainly just wanted to say that I just firmly believe that it shouldn’t be about the numbers. It should be about being healthy and comfortable with your body.
It truly should be about how you feel.
About 7 years ago I did Weight Watchers and did fabulously. I lost about 30 pounds and was about 130 pounds…the lightest I ever weighed (and at the low end of my “healthy weight range”). I was eating the healthiest diet I’d ever eaten… and I was working out all the time. I thought I’d be so happy. But I think (other than being happy about the size label in my clothes) I was the least comfortable with myself. I felt like I had to be so neurotic about what I put in my mouth all the time. I couldn’t enjoy eating out with friends… or having an ice cream cone… or having a glass of wine even.
Now, I will say I’m not thrilled with my weight (well… my weight before being pregnant. I’m OK with my pregnant weight). I do plan to work on my weight and exercise after this baby comes. That said… I’d be thrilled to be in the range of 150 pounds… but I found that when I tried to do Weight Watchers again just last year… they wouldn’t even let me put that as my “goal” because it was above the “range” I was suppose to be in. It was so irritating.
Now that I’ve just babbled away… I mainly just wanted to say that I just firmly believe that it shouldn’t be about the numbers. It should be about being healthy and comfortable with your body.
It truly should be about how you feel.
About 7 years ago I did Weight Watchers and did fabulously. I lost about 30 pounds and was about 130 pounds…the lightest I ever weighed (and at the low end of my “healthy weight range”). I was eating the healthiest diet I’d ever eaten… and I was working out all the time. I thought I’d be so happy. But I think (other than being happy about the size label in my clothes) I was the least comfortable with myself. I felt like I had to be so neurotic about what I put in my mouth all the time. I couldn’t enjoy eating out with friends… or having an ice cream cone… or having a glass of wine even.
Now, I will say I’m not thrilled with my weight (well… my weight before being pregnant. I’m OK with my pregnant weight). I do plan to work on my weight and exercise after this baby comes. That said… I’d be thrilled to be in the range of 150 pounds… but I found that when I tried to do Weight Watchers again just last year… they wouldn’t even let me put that as my “goal” because it was above the “range” I was suppose to be in. It was so irritating.
Now that I’ve just babbled away… I mainly just wanted to say that I just firmly believe that it shouldn’t be about the numbers. It should be about being healthy and comfortable with your body.
hey 2 inches off the thighs is like the hardest part ever! congrats.
i think whatever that “10 pounds” is obviously must be essential to your body makeup. it’s probably your body’s way of saying, “sorry jodi, i know you may not like me, but i’m here to stay.” it’s like my underbutt–i hate it, but without it, i can’t bend over.
hey 2 inches off the thighs is like the hardest part ever! congrats.
i think whatever that “10 pounds” is obviously must be essential to your body makeup. it’s probably your body’s way of saying, “sorry jodi, i know you may not like me, but i’m here to stay.” it’s like my underbutt–i hate it, but without it, i can’t bend over.
hey 2 inches off the thighs is like the hardest part ever! congrats.
i think whatever that “10 pounds” is obviously must be essential to your body makeup. it’s probably your body’s way of saying, “sorry jodi, i know you may not like me, but i’m here to stay.” it’s like my underbutt–i hate it, but without it, i can’t bend over.
hey 2 inches off the thighs is like the hardest part ever! congrats.
i think whatever that “10 pounds” is obviously must be essential to your body makeup. it’s probably your body’s way of saying, “sorry jodi, i know you may not like me, but i’m here to stay.” it’s like my underbutt–i hate it, but without it, i can’t bend over.
That is the biggest thing I learned in WW. It isn’t about a goal weight or how many inches, it is truly about how you feel!
Could I have busted my ass and been a size 4? Probably. But I like food. And alcohol. And life is meant to be lived!
Congrats!
That is the biggest thing I learned in WW. It isn’t about a goal weight or how many inches, it is truly about how you feel!
Could I have busted my ass and been a size 4? Probably. But I like food. And alcohol. And life is meant to be lived!
Congrats!
That is the biggest thing I learned in WW. It isn’t about a goal weight or how many inches, it is truly about how you feel!
Could I have busted my ass and been a size 4? Probably. But I like food. And alcohol. And life is meant to be lived!
Congrats!
That is the biggest thing I learned in WW. It isn’t about a goal weight or how many inches, it is truly about how you feel!
Could I have busted my ass and been a size 4? Probably. But I like food. And alcohol. And life is meant to be lived!
Congrats!