I've blogged an awful lot about Michael being an only child. Because we can't afford another one, and my house is too small, and I just don't have the desire for another child. I have sold or given away all of Michael's baby stuff, and own nothing.
And I'm kind of, a little bit, not sure, maybe changing my mind.
Emphasis on the maybe.
The past month or so I can not stop thinking about having a baby. It's not the same urge I had when we were trying for Michael. It's more of a what if, could I make this work, maybe I do want this, kind of feeling. I'm constantly thinking of baby names. In my head, mythical baby is always a girl.
I don't know what changed. It was almost like a switch went off in me and I said, hey I could have another kid. I think part of it is that Michael's babyhood went by so fast and I was always trying to get to the next step. I was soo not in the moment.
I still don't know if I want to have another child. I just know that I am no longer so closed off to the idea.
It took me up until last week to tell Doug how I was feeling. I thought he would FREAK OUT. We were so settled on only having one child, we literally have nothing, except the crib and stroller. But he didn't.
We are officially thinking about it. Not thinking about trying mind you. We are thinking about thinking about trying.
(This post is not meant to turn into an only children are bad post. I still believe whole heartedly in the only child. Hey, chances are, Michael will still be an only child. The only reason I would have another child is for me, not to make my first child less spoiled or give them a life long friend or any other only children are the devil reason. Yes, I am a little sensitive on this topic).
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That’s exciting!
At least if you are thinking about it, you know that you could be okay with either outcome.
And on a totally different note, I ran out this morning to get myself the newest Picoult book after reading the quotes you posted Saturday. I’m totally excited to read it!
Um, blogger ate my first comment. So if this shows up twice, it isn’t because I am a moron — well not a total moron anyway.
But moving on…
That’s exciting!
At least if you are thinking about it, you know that you could be okay with either outcome.
And on a totally different note, I ran out this morning to get myself the newest Picoult book after reading the quotes you posted Saturday. I’m totally excited to read it!
Um, blogger ate my first comment. So if this shows up twice, it isn’t because I am a moron — well not a total moron anyway.
But moving on…
That’s exciting!
At least if you are thinking about it, you know that you could be okay with either outcome.
And on a totally different note, I ran out this morning to get myself the newest Picoult book after reading the quotes you posted Saturday. I’m totally excited to read it!
Um, blogger ate my first comment. So if this shows up twice, it isn’t because I am a moron — well not a total moron anyway.
But moving on…
That’s exciting!
At least if you are thinking about it, you know that you could be okay with either outcome.
And on a totally different note, I ran out this morning to get myself the newest Picoult book after reading the quotes you posted Saturday. I’m totally excited to read it!
I’m sensitive too and I don’t have the one yet. But I always say (it’s a personal motto), having a child (or not having one) is not an offensive act and anyone who has an opinion about the simple act of having (or not having) a kid is an idiot. You can quote me.
You do make cute kids, though.
I’m sensitive too and I don’t have the one yet. But I always say (it’s a personal motto), having a child (or not having one) is not an offensive act and anyone who has an opinion about the simple act of having (or not having) a kid is an idiot. You can quote me.
You do make cute kids, though.
I’m sensitive too and I don’t have the one yet. But I always say (it’s a personal motto), having a child (or not having one) is not an offensive act and anyone who has an opinion about the simple act of having (or not having) a kid is an idiot. You can quote me.
You do make cute kids, though.
I’m sensitive too and I don’t have the one yet. But I always say (it’s a personal motto), having a child (or not having one) is not an offensive act and anyone who has an opinion about the simple act of having (or not having) a kid is an idiot. You can quote me.
You do make cute kids, though.
Oh – I would definitely do another if I could.
My husband – he would have a football team if it were up to him. I am more a fan of a tennis match.
Oh – I would definitely do another if I could.
My husband – he would have a football team if it were up to him. I am more a fan of a tennis match.
Oh – I would definitely do another if I could.
My husband – he would have a football team if it were up to him. I am more a fan of a tennis match.
Oh – I would definitely do another if I could.
My husband – he would have a football team if it were up to him. I am more a fan of a tennis match.
my husband and i continue to mull over the idea of even having a child in the first place. we keep joking that 2012 will be the year, but i think this date is so we can put away the idea for awhile to settle our nerves and other’s prodding “when are you having a baby” questions.
so, my dear, changing your mind is par for the course and totally a super thing to think over. we are human after all, right!
my husband and i continue to mull over the idea of even having a child in the first place. we keep joking that 2012 will be the year, but i think this date is so we can put away the idea for awhile to settle our nerves and other’s prodding “when are you having a baby” questions.
so, my dear, changing your mind is par for the course and totally a super thing to think over. we are human after all, right!
my husband and i continue to mull over the idea of even having a child in the first place. we keep joking that 2012 will be the year, but i think this date is so we can put away the idea for awhile to settle our nerves and other’s prodding “when are you having a baby” questions.
so, my dear, changing your mind is par for the course and totally a super thing to think over. we are human after all, right!
my husband and i continue to mull over the idea of even having a child in the first place. we keep joking that 2012 will be the year, but i think this date is so we can put away the idea for awhile to settle our nerves and other’s prodding “when are you having a baby” questions.
so, my dear, changing your mind is par for the course and totally a super thing to think over. we are human after all, right!
I think having a second child after you have given away all of the first child’s stuff is ideal, because then you get to go shopping again and that is obviously the best part.
I think having a second child after you have given away all of the first child’s stuff is ideal, because then you get to go shopping again and that is obviously the best part.
I think having a second child after you have given away all of the first child’s stuff is ideal, because then you get to go shopping again and that is obviously the best part.
I think having a second child after you have given away all of the first child’s stuff is ideal, because then you get to go shopping again and that is obviously the best part.
I want another baby badly; I’ve always wanted a big family. I do truly believe that some people are a one-kid kind of pair. I think it’s great you’re thinking about what pair you might be.
My reasons for not being pregnant already sound like yours except to add I’m still in college & I feel slightly guilty for staying at home & not bringing in any money. My husband tells me I worry too much.
I want another baby badly; I’ve always wanted a big family. I do truly believe that some people are a one-kid kind of pair. I think it’s great you’re thinking about what pair you might be.
My reasons for not being pregnant already sound like yours except to add I’m still in college & I feel slightly guilty for staying at home & not bringing in any money. My husband tells me I worry too much.
I want another baby badly; I’ve always wanted a big family. I do truly believe that some people are a one-kid kind of pair. I think it’s great you’re thinking about what pair you might be.
My reasons for not being pregnant already sound like yours except to add I’m still in college & I feel slightly guilty for staying at home & not bringing in any money. My husband tells me I worry too much.
I want another baby badly; I’ve always wanted a big family. I do truly believe that some people are a one-kid kind of pair. I think it’s great you’re thinking about what pair you might be.
My reasons for not being pregnant already sound like yours except to add I’m still in college & I feel slightly guilty for staying at home & not bringing in any money. My husband tells me I worry too much.
A lot of times I think that even just thinking about doing something different or big is exciting even if I never actually do it. You would be amazed at the amount of my older son’s stuff that we never used for the younger one and not because we bought new stuff with the younger one; we just realized what a pain most of the baby stuff was so we never brought it out. The high chair would be a really good example. We just got one of those booster seats for the chair.
A lot of times I think that even just thinking about doing something different or big is exciting even if I never actually do it. You would be amazed at the amount of my older son’s stuff that we never used for the younger one and not because we bought new stuff with the younger one; we just realized what a pain most of the baby stuff was so we never brought it out. The high chair would be a really good example. We just got one of those booster seats for the chair.
A lot of times I think that even just thinking about doing something different or big is exciting even if I never actually do it. You would be amazed at the amount of my older son’s stuff that we never used for the younger one and not because we bought new stuff with the younger one; we just realized what a pain most of the baby stuff was so we never brought it out. The high chair would be a really good example. We just got one of those booster seats for the chair.
A lot of times I think that even just thinking about doing something different or big is exciting even if I never actually do it. You would be amazed at the amount of my older son’s stuff that we never used for the younger one and not because we bought new stuff with the younger one; we just realized what a pain most of the baby stuff was so we never brought it out. The high chair would be a really good example. We just got one of those booster seats for the chair.
Exciting Jodi… Who knows what can happen… That’s what happened to me!
Anyway I agree w/ the above poster, definitely would be a big excuse for SHOPPING… And that can’t be all bad right?
Exciting Jodi… Who knows what can happen… That’s what happened to me!
Anyway I agree w/ the above poster, definitely would be a big excuse for SHOPPING… And that can’t be all bad right?
Exciting Jodi… Who knows what can happen… That’s what happened to me!
Anyway I agree w/ the above poster, definitely would be a big excuse for SHOPPING… And that can’t be all bad right?
Exciting Jodi… Who knows what can happen… That’s what happened to me!
Anyway I agree w/ the above poster, definitely would be a big excuse for SHOPPING… And that can’t be all bad right?
Pretty brave of you to talk about it publicly. Thanks for sharing such big thoughts with us.
My husband only wanted one kid. Having twins certainly got him out of that mode fast.
Pretty brave of you to talk about it publicly. Thanks for sharing such big thoughts with us.
My husband only wanted one kid. Having twins certainly got him out of that mode fast.
Pretty brave of you to talk about it publicly. Thanks for sharing such big thoughts with us.
My husband only wanted one kid. Having twins certainly got him out of that mode fast.
Pretty brave of you to talk about it publicly. Thanks for sharing such big thoughts with us.
My husband only wanted one kid. Having twins certainly got him out of that mode fast.
Well… if you do have another… and it is a girl… just think of the pretty toes!
Well… if you do have another… and it is a girl… just think of the pretty toes!
Well… if you do have another… and it is a girl… just think of the pretty toes!
Well… if you do have another… and it is a girl… just think of the pretty toes!
I’ve always wanted more than one, but I’ve never thought only children were evil. My husband is one. And his completely spoiled-ness aside, there’s nothing wrong with having one. Or 2 or 20. Whatever.
But I have always HATED when people say they want another so that the first born will have someone to play with. It always sounded like the second child wasn’t a real child. Just bugs me.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
I’ve always wanted more than one, but I’ve never thought only children were evil. My husband is one. And his completely spoiled-ness aside, there’s nothing wrong with having one. Or 2 or 20. Whatever.
But I have always HATED when people say they want another so that the first born will have someone to play with. It always sounded like the second child wasn’t a real child. Just bugs me.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
I’ve always wanted more than one, but I’ve never thought only children were evil. My husband is one. And his completely spoiled-ness aside, there’s nothing wrong with having one. Or 2 or 20. Whatever.
But I have always HATED when people say they want another so that the first born will have someone to play with. It always sounded like the second child wasn’t a real child. Just bugs me.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
I’ve always wanted more than one, but I’ve never thought only children were evil. My husband is one. And his completely spoiled-ness aside, there’s nothing wrong with having one. Or 2 or 20. Whatever.
But I have always HATED when people say they want another so that the first born will have someone to play with. It always sounded like the second child wasn’t a real child. Just bugs me.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
go for it!!!
go for it!!!
go for it!!!
go for it!!!
I originally found your blog when I thought we were having an only child. Our second baby is now almost 7 months old.
But that is irrelevant…
Here are my thoughts on the topic, for what they worth, and I do share them with all my friends who are in the thinking about it stage. Only YOU (and possibly your husband) will know when you’re family is complete. If that’s no kids, 1, 2 or 12 – great. When you get that completeness feeling, you’re family is complete.
I was desparate to have my first child and much more ambivalent about my second. But something was missing from our family. I love my girls and I am blessed by both of them but I don’t feel they are any better or worse off for having a sibling.
Now I know I am done-both with having kids and this terribly long comment.
I originally found your blog when I thought we were having an only child. Our second baby is now almost 7 months old.
But that is irrelevant…
Here are my thoughts on the topic, for what they worth, and I do share them with all my friends who are in the thinking about it stage. Only YOU (and possibly your husband) will know when you’re family is complete. If that’s no kids, 1, 2 or 12 – great. When you get that completeness feeling, you’re family is complete.
I was desparate to have my first child and much more ambivalent about my second. But something was missing from our family. I love my girls and I am blessed by both of them but I don’t feel they are any better or worse off for having a sibling.
Now I know I am done-both with having kids and this terribly long comment.
I originally found your blog when I thought we were having an only child. Our second baby is now almost 7 months old.
But that is irrelevant…
Here are my thoughts on the topic, for what they worth, and I do share them with all my friends who are in the thinking about it stage. Only YOU (and possibly your husband) will know when you’re family is complete. If that’s no kids, 1, 2 or 12 – great. When you get that completeness feeling, you’re family is complete.
I was desparate to have my first child and much more ambivalent about my second. But something was missing from our family. I love my girls and I am blessed by both of them but I don’t feel they are any better or worse off for having a sibling.
Now I know I am done-both with having kids and this terribly long comment.
I originally found your blog when I thought we were having an only child. Our second baby is now almost 7 months old.
But that is irrelevant…
Here are my thoughts on the topic, for what they worth, and I do share them with all my friends who are in the thinking about it stage. Only YOU (and possibly your husband) will know when you’re family is complete. If that’s no kids, 1, 2 or 12 – great. When you get that completeness feeling, you’re family is complete.
I was desparate to have my first child and much more ambivalent about my second. But something was missing from our family. I love my girls and I am blessed by both of them but I don’t feel they are any better or worse off for having a sibling.
Now I know I am done-both with having kids and this terribly long comment.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to change your mind.
My husband and I are only children and frankly, I loved it. However, when my first child came along, I knew I wanted him to have the connection with a sibling, and then eventually I gave him 2 brothers. Honestly, there is no right or wrong. I think my husband and myself are very well adjusted and fantastic people for such poor “lonely onlies”.
As a fan of your blog, I’d love to read all about your pregnancy and be excited for you but I’d continue to read either way.
It’s exciting to think about it isn’t it? At 43, I am so done having babies (with 3 already) but I still have 2 names I wish I could use but know I won’t.
My husband and I are only children and frankly, I loved it. However, when my first child came along, I knew I wanted him to have the connection with a sibling, and then eventually I gave him 2 brothers. Honestly, there is no right or wrong. I think my husband and myself are very well adjusted and fantastic people for such poor “lonely onlies”.
As a fan of your blog, I’d love to read all about your pregnancy and be excited for you but I’d continue to read either way.
It’s exciting to think about it isn’t it? At 43, I am so done having babies (with 3 already) but I still have 2 names I wish I could use but know I won’t.
My husband and I are only children and frankly, I loved it. However, when my first child came along, I knew I wanted him to have the connection with a sibling, and then eventually I gave him 2 brothers. Honestly, there is no right or wrong. I think my husband and myself are very well adjusted and fantastic people for such poor “lonely onlies”.
As a fan of your blog, I’d love to read all about your pregnancy and be excited for you but I’d continue to read either way.
It’s exciting to think about it isn’t it? At 43, I am so done having babies (with 3 already) but I still have 2 names I wish I could use but know I won’t.
My husband and I are only children and frankly, I loved it. However, when my first child came along, I knew I wanted him to have the connection with a sibling, and then eventually I gave him 2 brothers. Honestly, there is no right or wrong. I think my husband and myself are very well adjusted and fantastic people for such poor “lonely onlies”.
As a fan of your blog, I’d love to read all about your pregnancy and be excited for you but I’d continue to read either way.
It’s exciting to think about it isn’t it? At 43, I am so done having babies (with 3 already) but I still have 2 names I wish I could use but know I won’t.
I get it. Because of my weird childhood, I was able to be every type of birth order — oldest, youngest, middle and only. I was happiest when I was the only!
But I would love another baby! Maybe someone will drop one off at the front door tomorrow.
I get it. Because of my weird childhood, I was able to be every type of birth order — oldest, youngest, middle and only. I was happiest when I was the only!
But I would love another baby! Maybe someone will drop one off at the front door tomorrow.
I get it. Because of my weird childhood, I was able to be every type of birth order — oldest, youngest, middle and only. I was happiest when I was the only!
But I would love another baby! Maybe someone will drop one off at the front door tomorrow.
I get it. Because of my weird childhood, I was able to be every type of birth order — oldest, youngest, middle and only. I was happiest when I was the only!
But I would love another baby! Maybe someone will drop one off at the front door tomorrow.
Funny how that happens. Not long ago your post about having an only child inspired me to write one about how I wasn’t sure that I wanted another one.
I’m in no hurry but I’m almost certain we will have another one. I have no freakin’ idea how we will ever afford it but I can see it happening sometime. Maybe that baby bug starts with just a nibble instead of that full on bite like with the first one.
Funny how that happens. Not long ago your post about having an only child inspired me to write one about how I wasn’t sure that I wanted another one.
I’m in no hurry but I’m almost certain we will have another one. I have no freakin’ idea how we will ever afford it but I can see it happening sometime. Maybe that baby bug starts with just a nibble instead of that full on bite like with the first one.
Funny how that happens. Not long ago your post about having an only child inspired me to write one about how I wasn’t sure that I wanted another one.
I’m in no hurry but I’m almost certain we will have another one. I have no freakin’ idea how we will ever afford it but I can see it happening sometime. Maybe that baby bug starts with just a nibble instead of that full on bite like with the first one.
Funny how that happens. Not long ago your post about having an only child inspired me to write one about how I wasn’t sure that I wanted another one.
I’m in no hurry but I’m almost certain we will have another one. I have no freakin’ idea how we will ever afford it but I can see it happening sometime. Maybe that baby bug starts with just a nibble instead of that full on bite like with the first one.