Guess what, we are taking a break from the United nonsense!
Yep, it's that time again. I need parenting advice. The last time I asked the advice I got was so spot on, I have to do it again. (Since we moved Michael to the big boy bed, he has slept through the night again. In fact, he takes 3 hour naps and sleeps until 8 everyday. I should have done that forever ago). In fact, I'm thinking of using this blog for nothing but parenting advice.
Michael has become a holy terror. The past two weeks he has started hitting, kicking, pushing, pulling hair, throwing toys, name it, he does it. We had a playdate with Amy and Noah today and he beat the crap out of poor Noah. If I was Amy I'd never let him around my child again.
We have tried time outs, taking toys away, privileges away. I don't believe in spanking, and short of beating him, I am running out of ideas.
Please help. I know this is a toddler stage and he will group out of it, but will he grow out of it before he kills another child?
P.S. Don't call CPS, I was kidding about beating him. Really.
My toddler is beating the crap out of other toddlers
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Sorry. I’m no help. I have not had to deal with them hitting, etc outside of the house.
Now inside is another matter but that doesn’t really apply.
Good luck! And he will grow out of it.
Sorry. I’m no help. I have not had to deal with them hitting, etc outside of the house.
Now inside is another matter but that doesn’t really apply.
Good luck! And he will grow out of it.
Sorry. I’m no help. I have not had to deal with them hitting, etc outside of the house.
Now inside is another matter but that doesn’t really apply.
Good luck! And he will grow out of it.
Sorry. I’m no help. I have not had to deal with them hitting, etc outside of the house.
Now inside is another matter but that doesn’t really apply.
Good luck! And he will grow out of it.
That’s a hard one. Garrett (who is around the same age as Michael) has the same sort of problem, and it comes and goes in (thankfully short) spurts.
The thing that ended up putting a stop to it last time was that another kid that he pushed, pushed him back. Not that I am saying that is the best thing to do (don’t push back, blah blah blah) but it did get Garrett to be nicer to other kids.
I am of the one warning only school of thought, so once I warn him and put him in time out for something like that once, the second time (if we are not at home) then we leave (esp if we are somewhere fun for him). It isn’t very fun for me to do it that way, but I think it sends a clear message…which seems to be working, as I haven’t had to give more than one warning in a while.
Good luck!
That’s a hard one. Garrett (who is around the same age as Michael) has the same sort of problem, and it comes and goes in (thankfully short) spurts.
The thing that ended up putting a stop to it last time was that another kid that he pushed, pushed him back. Not that I am saying that is the best thing to do (don’t push back, blah blah blah) but it did get Garrett to be nicer to other kids.
I am of the one warning only school of thought, so once I warn him and put him in time out for something like that once, the second time (if we are not at home) then we leave (esp if we are somewhere fun for him). It isn’t very fun for me to do it that way, but I think it sends a clear message…which seems to be working, as I haven’t had to give more than one warning in a while.
Good luck!
That’s a hard one. Garrett (who is around the same age as Michael) has the same sort of problem, and it comes and goes in (thankfully short) spurts.
The thing that ended up putting a stop to it last time was that another kid that he pushed, pushed him back. Not that I am saying that is the best thing to do (don’t push back, blah blah blah) but it did get Garrett to be nicer to other kids.
I am of the one warning only school of thought, so once I warn him and put him in time out for something like that once, the second time (if we are not at home) then we leave (esp if we are somewhere fun for him). It isn’t very fun for me to do it that way, but I think it sends a clear message…which seems to be working, as I haven’t had to give more than one warning in a while.
Good luck!
That’s a hard one. Garrett (who is around the same age as Michael) has the same sort of problem, and it comes and goes in (thankfully short) spurts.
The thing that ended up putting a stop to it last time was that another kid that he pushed, pushed him back. Not that I am saying that is the best thing to do (don’t push back, blah blah blah) but it did get Garrett to be nicer to other kids.
I am of the one warning only school of thought, so once I warn him and put him in time out for something like that once, the second time (if we are not at home) then we leave (esp if we are somewhere fun for him). It isn’t very fun for me to do it that way, but I think it sends a clear message…which seems to be working, as I haven’t had to give more than one warning in a while.
Good luck!
Consequences are important, but so is reinforcement of appropriate behavior. Make sure you are ‘catching him being good’ too -even if the only thing you can come up with is ‘thank you for walking’ (vs. not running thru the store).
Consequences are important, but so is reinforcement of appropriate behavior. Make sure you are ‘catching him being good’ too -even if the only thing you can come up with is ‘thank you for walking’ (vs. not running thru the store).
Consequences are important, but so is reinforcement of appropriate behavior. Make sure you are ‘catching him being good’ too -even if the only thing you can come up with is ‘thank you for walking’ (vs. not running thru the store).
Consequences are important, but so is reinforcement of appropriate behavior. Make sure you are ‘catching him being good’ too -even if the only thing you can come up with is ‘thank you for walking’ (vs. not running thru the store).
Ok, so I have absolutely no experience with this seeing as Boog is only 13 months old, however, my day care provider has a 3 year old that is having some aggression issues and I can pass on her approach.
She is rewarding him for good behavior at certain intervals of the day. For example, when he gets there in the morning she tells him that if he can go until lunch without an incident he will get a prize. Typically this is a sticker or something small. I believe she periodically reminds him of this as well and I think there are days that she does it in smaller time increments like an hour or two if he’s having a really bad day.
No idea if this will work but I thought I’d pass it on anyway.
Ok, so I have absolutely no experience with this seeing as Boog is only 13 months old, however, my day care provider has a 3 year old that is having some aggression issues and I can pass on her approach.
She is rewarding him for good behavior at certain intervals of the day. For example, when he gets there in the morning she tells him that if he can go until lunch without an incident he will get a prize. Typically this is a sticker or something small. I believe she periodically reminds him of this as well and I think there are days that she does it in smaller time increments like an hour or two if he’s having a really bad day.
No idea if this will work but I thought I’d pass it on anyway.
Ok, so I have absolutely no experience with this seeing as Boog is only 13 months old, however, my day care provider has a 3 year old that is having some aggression issues and I can pass on her approach.
She is rewarding him for good behavior at certain intervals of the day. For example, when he gets there in the morning she tells him that if he can go until lunch without an incident he will get a prize. Typically this is a sticker or something small. I believe she periodically reminds him of this as well and I think there are days that she does it in smaller time increments like an hour or two if he’s having a really bad day.
No idea if this will work but I thought I’d pass it on anyway.
Ok, so I have absolutely no experience with this seeing as Boog is only 13 months old, however, my day care provider has a 3 year old that is having some aggression issues and I can pass on her approach.
She is rewarding him for good behavior at certain intervals of the day. For example, when he gets there in the morning she tells him that if he can go until lunch without an incident he will get a prize. Typically this is a sticker or something small. I believe she periodically reminds him of this as well and I think there are days that she does it in smaller time increments like an hour or two if he’s having a really bad day.
No idea if this will work but I thought I’d pass it on anyway.
I’m not help because my kid is the playground bully.. But just wanted to say your not the only one!
I’m not help because my kid is the playground bully.. But just wanted to say your not the only one!
I’m not help because my kid is the playground bully.. But just wanted to say your not the only one!
I’m not help because my kid is the playground bully.. But just wanted to say your not the only one!