I think my best quality is that I'm a really good friend. I am there whenever my friends need me and would give anyone the shirt off my back. I go out of my way to help my friends. I email, I call, I try to be there. Even with my busy life, I take time out, like really take time out, when I can help, or just to listen. You always get a card and call for every birthday and anniversary. I hand knit baby blankets as gifts. I remember milestones.
I've realized lately that I am unappreciated. Most people are not me. Most people do not value friendship the way I do.
I'm sick of being the one who always trys so hard and is let down. I'm starting to feel like a stalker. I'm tired of unreturned phone messages and unreturned emails. If I've offended you, tell me. Don't just blow me off.
Why is it so hard to let go and move on? When will I learn to stop reaching out? Maybe people just grow out of each other and that is okay.
(Just to be clear, this is not related to anyone who reads this blog. So please don't think I'm talking about you. I'm not).
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I relate to this post more than any other. I am exactly the same way, and it’s just how we are, and it is hard to accept that other people are just NOT like us. I really have no real encouragement, because I constantly struggle with letting go of people who don’t appreciate me or continuing to try because that’s what I naturally think to do. And it’s exhausting. It’s also why I drink. (Kidding.)
(Sorta. Ha.)
But, I am here if you want to shoot me an e-mail and vent.
I relate to this post more than any other. I am exactly the same way, and it’s just how we are, and it is hard to accept that other people are just NOT like us. I really have no real encouragement, because I constantly struggle with letting go of people who don’t appreciate me or continuing to try because that’s what I naturally think to do. And it’s exhausting. It’s also why I drink. (Kidding.)
(Sorta. Ha.)
But, I am here if you want to shoot me an e-mail and vent.
I relate to this post more than any other. I am exactly the same way, and it’s just how we are, and it is hard to accept that other people are just NOT like us. I really have no real encouragement, because I constantly struggle with letting go of people who don’t appreciate me or continuing to try because that’s what I naturally think to do. And it’s exhausting. It’s also why I drink. (Kidding.)
(Sorta. Ha.)
But, I am here if you want to shoot me an e-mail and vent.
I relate to this post more than any other. I am exactly the same way, and it’s just how we are, and it is hard to accept that other people are just NOT like us. I really have no real encouragement, because I constantly struggle with letting go of people who don’t appreciate me or continuing to try because that’s what I naturally think to do. And it’s exhausting. It’s also why I drink. (Kidding.)
(Sorta. Ha.)
But, I am here if you want to shoot me an e-mail and vent.
I am a similar friend, I feel. I often find that I even supress my own happiness and loving relationship with my husband as it appears most of my friends are going through tough times–always.
It’s tiresome trying to be there, and when you need someone they can’t really be truly there for you. I’ve always been the friend who is the listener, and perhaps why so many of my friends have problems–because I’m the one they turn to to listen.
Listening is tough. And, I believe, underappreciated.
I am a similar friend, I feel. I often find that I even supress my own happiness and loving relationship with my husband as it appears most of my friends are going through tough times–always.
It’s tiresome trying to be there, and when you need someone they can’t really be truly there for you. I’ve always been the friend who is the listener, and perhaps why so many of my friends have problems–because I’m the one they turn to to listen.
Listening is tough. And, I believe, underappreciated.
I am a similar friend, I feel. I often find that I even supress my own happiness and loving relationship with my husband as it appears most of my friends are going through tough times–always.
It’s tiresome trying to be there, and when you need someone they can’t really be truly there for you. I’ve always been the friend who is the listener, and perhaps why so many of my friends have problems–because I’m the one they turn to to listen.
Listening is tough. And, I believe, underappreciated.
I am a similar friend, I feel. I often find that I even supress my own happiness and loving relationship with my husband as it appears most of my friends are going through tough times–always.
It’s tiresome trying to be there, and when you need someone they can’t really be truly there for you. I’ve always been the friend who is the listener, and perhaps why so many of my friends have problems–because I’m the one they turn to to listen.
Listening is tough. And, I believe, underappreciated.
We really are soulmates. I consider(ed) myself just that type of friend and then had someone, years ago, just take me too the edge. I tried to be that friend for her every need was so unappreciated.
So I’ve figured out that unless I see some early signs of reciprocity, I don’t make the effort. It has made my life much easier. And I have truer friends.
But I feel for you. Friends who let you down are such a disappointment.
We really are soulmates. I consider(ed) myself just that type of friend and then had someone, years ago, just take me too the edge. I tried to be that friend for her every need was so unappreciated.
So I’ve figured out that unless I see some early signs of reciprocity, I don’t make the effort. It has made my life much easier. And I have truer friends.
But I feel for you. Friends who let you down are such a disappointment.
We really are soulmates. I consider(ed) myself just that type of friend and then had someone, years ago, just take me too the edge. I tried to be that friend for her every need was so unappreciated.
So I’ve figured out that unless I see some early signs of reciprocity, I don’t make the effort. It has made my life much easier. And I have truer friends.
But I feel for you. Friends who let you down are such a disappointment.
We really are soulmates. I consider(ed) myself just that type of friend and then had someone, years ago, just take me too the edge. I tried to be that friend for her every need was so unappreciated.
So I’ve figured out that unless I see some early signs of reciprocity, I don’t make the effort. It has made my life much easier. And I have truer friends.
But I feel for you. Friends who let you down are such a disappointment.
Aw Jodi.. Im sorry… I can somewhat relate.. Except I’m now the friend who has given up. I got really tired of trying so hard… And it still hurts, but slowly I got over it… But you deserve to be appreciated, so make you sure that you are! a one-sided relationship never works.
Aw Jodi.. Im sorry… I can somewhat relate.. Except I’m now the friend who has given up. I got really tired of trying so hard… And it still hurts, but slowly I got over it… But you deserve to be appreciated, so make you sure that you are! a one-sided relationship never works.
Aw Jodi.. Im sorry… I can somewhat relate.. Except I’m now the friend who has given up. I got really tired of trying so hard… And it still hurts, but slowly I got over it… But you deserve to be appreciated, so make you sure that you are! a one-sided relationship never works.
Aw Jodi.. Im sorry… I can somewhat relate.. Except I’m now the friend who has given up. I got really tired of trying so hard… And it still hurts, but slowly I got over it… But you deserve to be appreciated, so make you sure that you are! a one-sided relationship never works.
I totally get what you are saying, I am the same way with most of my friends. This is gonna sound terrible but the best way I have found to deal with being disappointed is to adjust what I need from someone.
That way if I do things for someone or I am an outstanding friend, I do it because I want to and because it makes me feel good. If I adjust what I need in return then I can feel good about it without being upset and not being appreciated how I think that I should be appreciated. And the same goes that if I don’t feel like going that extra mile, it’s okay not to. It isn’t always easy but it has saved me some hurt sometimes.
I totally get what you are saying, I am the same way with most of my friends. This is gonna sound terrible but the best way I have found to deal with being disappointed is to adjust what I need from someone.
That way if I do things for someone or I am an outstanding friend, I do it because I want to and because it makes me feel good. If I adjust what I need in return then I can feel good about it without being upset and not being appreciated how I think that I should be appreciated. And the same goes that if I don’t feel like going that extra mile, it’s okay not to. It isn’t always easy but it has saved me some hurt sometimes.
I totally get what you are saying, I am the same way with most of my friends. This is gonna sound terrible but the best way I have found to deal with being disappointed is to adjust what I need from someone.
That way if I do things for someone or I am an outstanding friend, I do it because I want to and because it makes me feel good. If I adjust what I need in return then I can feel good about it without being upset and not being appreciated how I think that I should be appreciated. And the same goes that if I don’t feel like going that extra mile, it’s okay not to. It isn’t always easy but it has saved me some hurt sometimes.
I totally get what you are saying, I am the same way with most of my friends. This is gonna sound terrible but the best way I have found to deal with being disappointed is to adjust what I need from someone.
That way if I do things for someone or I am an outstanding friend, I do it because I want to and because it makes me feel good. If I adjust what I need in return then I can feel good about it without being upset and not being appreciated how I think that I should be appreciated. And the same goes that if I don’t feel like going that extra mile, it’s okay not to. It isn’t always easy but it has saved me some hurt sometimes.
I feel that way a lot too. Maybe you can move to MA?
I feel that way a lot too. Maybe you can move to MA?
I feel that way a lot too. Maybe you can move to MA?
I feel that way a lot too. Maybe you can move to MA?
I totally get you on this one.
I totally get you on this one.
I totally get you on this one.
I totally get you on this one.
i think you wrote this post just for me.
i think you wrote this post just for me.
i think you wrote this post just for me.
i think you wrote this post just for me.
I know what you mean. It’s so confusing when things seem to be going well and then suddenly…nothing. I think sometimes people want to end the friendship but don’t know how to do it.
I felt a lot better after I read He’s Just Not That Into You. It’s more for dating relationships, but I found it a relief to think of friendships in similar terms.
I know what you mean. It’s so confusing when things seem to be going well and then suddenly…nothing. I think sometimes people want to end the friendship but don’t know how to do it.
I felt a lot better after I read He’s Just Not That Into You. It’s more for dating relationships, but I found it a relief to think of friendships in similar terms.
I know what you mean. It’s so confusing when things seem to be going well and then suddenly…nothing. I think sometimes people want to end the friendship but don’t know how to do it.
I felt a lot better after I read He’s Just Not That Into You. It’s more for dating relationships, but I found it a relief to think of friendships in similar terms.
I know what you mean. It’s so confusing when things seem to be going well and then suddenly…nothing. I think sometimes people want to end the friendship but don’t know how to do it.
I felt a lot better after I read He’s Just Not That Into You. It’s more for dating relationships, but I found it a relief to think of friendships in similar terms.