When I had my daughter, I started having all this anxiety about raising her. With my 3-year-old son, it was so much easier. The world has very low expectations for teaching boys. My religion has a few higher standards but they still aren’t nearly as much as what we’re “supposed” to teach our daughters. I have to teach my son the value of work, the value of education, how to treat a woman, how to be a profitable member of society (just to name a few). But I not only do I have to teach my daughter all those things but on top of that I’m “supposed” to teach her how to cook, clean, how to dress attractively (which encompasses so much: hair, make-up, accessories, modesty ect.), how to decorate, and the ins and outs of manipulating your husband. Lol.
More simply put, I have to teach her how to be a mother. Now this is no small undertaking. Of course, you could turn that around and say that I have to teach my son how to be a father, but then this post wouldn’t be about mothers. So my anxiety is how can I possibly teach someone how to be a mother when I’m only learning myself? My mother was a wonderful teacher. I just wasn’t a very attentive student. I didn’t care to learn how to cook, I was more interested in boys. Which brings me to my next question, how do I teach my daughter this if she says she has no intentions of ever becoming a mother? I guess my questions are answered simply that the best way I can teach is through example. Therefore, I will have to step up my game a little and start trying to be better at cooking, cleaning and all those other perfect mom things. And in the event that she doesn’t learn half this stuff I’m trying to teach her then she’ll just go through a bunch of hard knocks like I am because of my failure to listen to my mother.
This post was written by Kendra over at Dramatized Reality. She has a 3-year-old son and a 8-month-old daughter. When she’s not keeping busy with her children, she likes to play the piano, scrapbook, read and sew. She is currently in the process of moving her family….this week.
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I honestly believe you teach through learning, through trying. She’ll learn by seeing how very much you love her by even posing the question of how.
I honestly believe you teach through learning, through trying. She’ll learn by seeing how very much you love her by even posing the question of how.
I honestly believe you teach through learning, through trying. She’ll learn by seeing how very much you love her by even posing the question of how.
I honestly believe you teach through learning, through trying. She’ll learn by seeing how very much you love her by even posing the question of how.
There is so much that goes into teaching these little ones about being the best human beings possible. No matter what it is they end up doing or what job(s) they hold later in life, the point is to aid them in “becoming”. Plain and simple. Well, okay not so simple but a worthy goal.
There is so much that goes into teaching these little ones about being the best human beings possible. No matter what it is they end up doing or what job(s) they hold later in life, the point is to aid them in “becoming”. Plain and simple. Well, okay not so simple but a worthy goal.
There is so much that goes into teaching these little ones about being the best human beings possible. No matter what it is they end up doing or what job(s) they hold later in life, the point is to aid them in “becoming”. Plain and simple. Well, okay not so simple but a worthy goal.
There is so much that goes into teaching these little ones about being the best human beings possible. No matter what it is they end up doing or what job(s) they hold later in life, the point is to aid them in “becoming”. Plain and simple. Well, okay not so simple but a worthy goal.
Being her (and his) mom is being a teacher. It is part of this wonderful calling.
Being her (and his) mom is being a teacher. It is part of this wonderful calling.
Being her (and his) mom is being a teacher. It is part of this wonderful calling.
Being her (and his) mom is being a teacher. It is part of this wonderful calling.
Oh my gosh. I never thought about some of these things. Lots of things to teach our children. What if I fail? I suppose it is normal to think this way. I hope.
Great post. Truly makes me think about what I’m teaching my son.
Oh my gosh. I never thought about some of these things. Lots of things to teach our children. What if I fail? I suppose it is normal to think this way. I hope.
Great post. Truly makes me think about what I’m teaching my son.
Oh my gosh. I never thought about some of these things. Lots of things to teach our children. What if I fail? I suppose it is normal to think this way. I hope.
Great post. Truly makes me think about what I’m teaching my son.
Oh my gosh. I never thought about some of these things. Lots of things to teach our children. What if I fail? I suppose it is normal to think this way. I hope.
Great post. Truly makes me think about what I’m teaching my son.
I think teaching by example is wonderful — I know I learned a lot from my own mom and I’m sure your kids will too!
I think teaching by example is wonderful — I know I learned a lot from my own mom and I’m sure your kids will too!
I think teaching by example is wonderful — I know I learned a lot from my own mom and I’m sure your kids will too!
I think teaching by example is wonderful — I know I learned a lot from my own mom and I’m sure your kids will too!
Being a great mom has very little to do with cooking and cleaning, etc. I think you teach with your heart
Being a great mom has very little to do with cooking and cleaning, etc. I think you teach with your heart
Being a great mom has very little to do with cooking and cleaning, etc. I think you teach with your heart
Being a great mom has very little to do with cooking and cleaning, etc. I think you teach with your heart
so much more meaningful to teach by example than because-I-said-so. (but, around here, I’m not sure cleaning will be a big part of it…)
(Jenn)
so much more meaningful to teach by example than because-I-said-so. (but, around here, I’m not sure cleaning will be a big part of it…)
(Jenn)
so much more meaningful to teach by example than because-I-said-so. (but, around here, I’m not sure cleaning will be a big part of it…)
(Jenn)
so much more meaningful to teach by example than because-I-said-so. (but, around here, I’m not sure cleaning will be a big part of it…)
(Jenn)
Oh my daugher is in for it. I don’t cook or clean well. That is her dad’s stuff, LOL….
I am the painter and fix the car girl. LOL…
Oh my daugher is in for it. I don’t cook or clean well. That is her dad’s stuff, LOL….
I am the painter and fix the car girl. LOL…
Oh my daugher is in for it. I don’t cook or clean well. That is her dad’s stuff, LOL….
I am the painter and fix the car girl. LOL…
Oh my daugher is in for it. I don’t cook or clean well. That is her dad’s stuff, LOL….
I am the painter and fix the car girl. LOL…
I think teaching is best done by example. That way your teaching your son those important skills like cooking too. No one knows for sure when growing up and even in single adulthood, that they are eventually going to be married, but pretty much everyone needs to learn how to cook and clean to take care of themselves.
I think teaching is best done by example. That way your teaching your son those important skills like cooking too. No one knows for sure when growing up and even in single adulthood, that they are eventually going to be married, but pretty much everyone needs to learn how to cook and clean to take care of themselves.
I think teaching is best done by example. That way your teaching your son those important skills like cooking too. No one knows for sure when growing up and even in single adulthood, that they are eventually going to be married, but pretty much everyone needs to learn how to cook and clean to take care of themselves.
I think teaching is best done by example. That way your teaching your son those important skills like cooking too. No one knows for sure when growing up and even in single adulthood, that they are eventually going to be married, but pretty much everyone needs to learn how to cook and clean to take care of themselves.