Remember when I said I wanted to quit my job and stay home full time? (Actually, have I ever said that here? Have I just been thinking about it)?
I take it back. I couldn't make it through three days straight at home, two with Doug. The whole weekend has been exactly like Friday, crying, complaining, and being generally miserable. Besides playing in the dinning room (which Michael is not allowed to do), or watch TV (which we limit to an hour), nothing, and I mean nothing, has made Michael happy.
There was constant whining, and NO! Doug handled it much better than I did (except for the fact that he went to bed at 8:30 on Friday night and took a nap on Saturday). I started to wonder, do I lose my patience so quickly because I am home more? Would I be a better Mom if I just sucked it up and worked full time? I might be able to find something I liked better (in fact, I know I could, but that's a different post).
Is there ever a right answer? I thought working part-time was the perfect balance for me, attorney sometimes, stay at home mom others. But in turns out, I'm not very good at either one. My job is suffering, and Michael is suffering.
When does this become easier? Women talk about going back to work when their child is in school, but I actually think you are busier then, with homework, extracurricular activities, and sports games to attend.
Doug and I have been talking about me staying home full time. If we can afford it, I can do it. I'm not sure we can afford it, but I'm also not sure I want to. Doug thinks I just hate my job, which he is right about, not that I want to be home full time. I don't know anything anymore.
I thought I had already made this decision
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I think kids pick up on things like this… It is entirely possible that he is picking up some vibe off of you and has gotten it into his head to test his limits with you to see how far he can go.
I was SAHM until last summer, when I got a part-time job. My position got removed at the beginning of Jan and I went through a phase where I felt I had just simply lost my ability to have patience with my DS… it took us awhile to hit our rhythm again, but I think things are okay now. We watch more tv than I want, but oh well.
I think kids pick up on things like this… It is entirely possible that he is picking up some vibe off of you and has gotten it into his head to test his limits with you to see how far he can go.
I was SAHM until last summer, when I got a part-time job. My position got removed at the beginning of Jan and I went through a phase where I felt I had just simply lost my ability to have patience with my DS… it took us awhile to hit our rhythm again, but I think things are okay now. We watch more tv than I want, but oh well.
I think kids pick up on things like this… It is entirely possible that he is picking up some vibe off of you and has gotten it into his head to test his limits with you to see how far he can go.
I was SAHM until last summer, when I got a part-time job. My position got removed at the beginning of Jan and I went through a phase where I felt I had just simply lost my ability to have patience with my DS… it took us awhile to hit our rhythm again, but I think things are okay now. We watch more tv than I want, but oh well.
I think kids pick up on things like this… It is entirely possible that he is picking up some vibe off of you and has gotten it into his head to test his limits with you to see how far he can go.
I was SAHM until last summer, when I got a part-time job. My position got removed at the beginning of Jan and I went through a phase where I felt I had just simply lost my ability to have patience with my DS… it took us awhile to hit our rhythm again, but I think things are okay now. We watch more tv than I want, but oh well.
No advice babe, just hugs. I hope you can find the right fit for your family.
No advice babe, just hugs. I hope you can find the right fit for your family.
No advice babe, just hugs. I hope you can find the right fit for your family.
No advice babe, just hugs. I hope you can find the right fit for your family.
My son is 19 months and we have days like that now and then where he’s so whiny and unhappy unless I totally indulge him. After the last episode, I took a good look inside his mouth and seeing two eyeteeth and two molars just barely poking through. After giving him Tylenol, he was a LOT easier and I was a lot happier.
My son doesn’t talk yet and it’s maddening when they can’t tell you what the deal is. As I recall with my daughter, everything improved when she started talking.
And as another commenter said, it will get better when you find your groove
My son is 19 months and we have days like that now and then where he’s so whiny and unhappy unless I totally indulge him. After the last episode, I took a good look inside his mouth and seeing two eyeteeth and two molars just barely poking through. After giving him Tylenol, he was a LOT easier and I was a lot happier.
My son doesn’t talk yet and it’s maddening when they can’t tell you what the deal is. As I recall with my daughter, everything improved when she started talking.
And as another commenter said, it will get better when you find your groove
My son is 19 months and we have days like that now and then where he’s so whiny and unhappy unless I totally indulge him. After the last episode, I took a good look inside his mouth and seeing two eyeteeth and two molars just barely poking through. After giving him Tylenol, he was a LOT easier and I was a lot happier.
My son doesn’t talk yet and it’s maddening when they can’t tell you what the deal is. As I recall with my daughter, everything improved when she started talking.
And as another commenter said, it will get better when you find your groove
My son is 19 months and we have days like that now and then where he’s so whiny and unhappy unless I totally indulge him. After the last episode, I took a good look inside his mouth and seeing two eyeteeth and two molars just barely poking through. After giving him Tylenol, he was a LOT easier and I was a lot happier.
My son doesn’t talk yet and it’s maddening when they can’t tell you what the deal is. As I recall with my daughter, everything improved when she started talking.
And as another commenter said, it will get better when you find your groove
I know very few moms who are totally happy with the decision either way. I’m constantly questioning my decision and I do enjoy being home for the most part. Finding a routine is great. So is realizing that it is actually good for your kids to see you sitting down reading a magazine, checking email, etc. and relaxing. You’re teaching them how to take a break. Some days there’s lots of “reading magazines” going on in my house!
I know very few moms who are totally happy with the decision either way. I’m constantly questioning my decision and I do enjoy being home for the most part. Finding a routine is great. So is realizing that it is actually good for your kids to see you sitting down reading a magazine, checking email, etc. and relaxing. You’re teaching them how to take a break. Some days there’s lots of “reading magazines” going on in my house!
I know very few moms who are totally happy with the decision either way. I’m constantly questioning my decision and I do enjoy being home for the most part. Finding a routine is great. So is realizing that it is actually good for your kids to see you sitting down reading a magazine, checking email, etc. and relaxing. You’re teaching them how to take a break. Some days there’s lots of “reading magazines” going on in my house!
I know very few moms who are totally happy with the decision either way. I’m constantly questioning my decision and I do enjoy being home for the most part. Finding a routine is great. So is realizing that it is actually good for your kids to see you sitting down reading a magazine, checking email, etc. and relaxing. You’re teaching them how to take a break. Some days there’s lots of “reading magazines” going on in my house!
Oh – this is soooo tough! For those of us who like to have some “work” still in our lives, I don’t think there is ever an easy answer. Perhaps finding a job that you like better is a good idea. Maybe having a trial stay at home would be good too. Not sure… it is tough.
So nice to meet you – thanks for dropping by my place. So glad you are coming to the party
Oh – this is soooo tough! For those of us who like to have some “work” still in our lives, I don’t think there is ever an easy answer. Perhaps finding a job that you like better is a good idea. Maybe having a trial stay at home would be good too. Not sure… it is tough.
So nice to meet you – thanks for dropping by my place. So glad you are coming to the party
Oh – this is soooo tough! For those of us who like to have some “work” still in our lives, I don’t think there is ever an easy answer. Perhaps finding a job that you like better is a good idea. Maybe having a trial stay at home would be good too. Not sure… it is tough.
So nice to meet you – thanks for dropping by my place. So glad you are coming to the party
Oh – this is soooo tough! For those of us who like to have some “work” still in our lives, I don’t think there is ever an easy answer. Perhaps finding a job that you like better is a good idea. Maybe having a trial stay at home would be good too. Not sure… it is tough.
So nice to meet you – thanks for dropping by my place. So glad you are coming to the party